Bianca Mia is a beautiful, engaging, down-to-earth escort in her forties based in Sydney. She tells us her background is "Australian... but with just enough Italian thrown in to spice things up." We met with Bianca to discuss what it's like to be considered a "mature" escort in Australia, the benefits of ageing and how she really feels about the terms "MILF" and "cougar".
What’s it like being a woman in her forties in the Australian escort industry?
It’s amazing. I attract people that appreciate my wisdom and experience and all the things that come with being mature. I’ve over 40 and I’m totally comfortable with that. I like who I am and I’m grateful for the experiences that have made me who I am today. I think one’s attitude to life determines one’s experience, so for me, I love it.
How do you feel about terms like “milf” and “cougar”?
I have a great appreciation for urban vernacular, but to me, MILF is ill thought out and lacks imagination. It’s an anacronym that sounds like it was made up by a bunch of pimply-faced pubescent boneheads at the back of a classroom. Cougar… I like it! It more aptly describes a fierce and beautiful woman in her mature prime!
How do you feel society as a whole treats older women?
I think in Australia, we’re evolving into understanding and appreciating our gender differences better as well as recognising the qualities that differing ages contribute to a society. I feel that older women are becoming less invisible. We are growing out of past embedded prejudices, but it takes time. There are aspects to ageing that nobody likes regardless of gender. I guess youth symbolises strength, beauty and vigour, and we as a society certainly have glorified those qualities. But I guess there is still a kind of unspoken assumption that a woman over a certain age is ‘past it’.
We always hear the negatives of ageing. What are the positives?
How we choose to navigate our way through the inevitability of aging and losing our youthful feminine qualities can be an opportunity for a kind of graceful liberation. I think things have improved and I often still get told “I’ve still got it”. I’m not aspiring to be something that I’m not, so the comment, although well-meaning, always irks me.
In your opinion, what can a man learn from spending time with an older woman?
Okay, Malcolm Gladwell’s 10,000 hour rule definitely applies here!
How have you changed as you've aged?
I’m more chilled and relaxed about things than when I was younger. I’ve had more time on the planet to get to know myself, and my likes and dislikes. I’m way more confident sexually. Attractiveness has become more about how someone behaves and their values, as opposed to how physically alluring someone is. Experience makes you more intuitive and gives you more insight into people, so often you just know what someone needs sexually and emotionally. It’s easier for me to open up, be real and let go with a client knowing that I’m confident and in control. Being authentic is very much a part of what I'm about as a provider. I probably have a lot of shared life experiences with many of my clients, so we relate together well. I’m done with the personal dramas that consumed me when I was younger, so my conversation may gravitate more towards things outside of myself. I have also mastered the art of truly listening to people, something I used to be shit at in my earlier years!
What are the biggest misconceptions about older women?
Probably that we’re man-eaters and obsessed with bedding young studs. I get so many young guys assuming that I’ll offer them discounts because of their age. Good luck with that!
What are your favourite types of services to offer?
I’m all about keeping things very real and providing genuine connections. I have a reputation for being picky in who I see, and it’s not because I’m a snob, it’s because there needs to be a connection there for me to enjoy it. I can’t lay it all down with someone if we don’t click. If we click, we’re both going to have a much better time. I love extended dates that include social time because this is where we really get to know one another. The slow build and dance of seduction makes the sex so much more intense, however there is also something very hot and sexy about letting go with someone you’ve only just met.
Who's your ideal type of lover?
The ones who get as much enjoyment out of my pleasure as their own.
Tell us something about you that might surprise us.
I go on annual meditation retreats where I practice complete silence and celibacy for weeks at a time.
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