The Sex Workers Guide To Great Sex
Six Australian Sex Workers Give Us Their Best Tips For Having Better Sex.
If anyone knows how to have great sex, it's sex workers.
Sex workers are professionals when it comes to play. They're not only highly skilled in the shagging department, but sex workers are also generally experts when it comes to navigating pleasure, negotiating consent, communication and generally making people feel good, both physically and emotionally.
Even if you regard yourself as a bit of a Casanova in the sack, it can't hurt to get a few sexy pointers from these 6 sex workers.
“Keep us emotionally engaged.”
"Communication: Humans (especially women) are intricate creatures. Our minds are constantly ticking, we’re known for multi-tasking. So, don’t fool yourself for one second into thinking that our brains just instantly switch off the moment sex comes into play. It doesn’t. Keep us emotionally engaged. Personally, an orgasm is impossible if I’m distracted mentally. I think a lot of the time that foreplay is thought of as either simply oral sex or any other act leading up to the main event. But foreplay should be considered more as mental stimulation, spend time with your partner and really involve them. Nothing feels as good as being FULLY appreciated. Memorable, fulfilling sex requires more than just lust and a few good moves.”
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“I highly recommend figuring out the actions you most often want someone to do during oral, and translating them into encouraging dirty talk.”
“Whether it’s in my professional life or my personal life, I love getting head. Getting my pussy eaten right can be the best of times even during the worst of times and put a spring of hope in my step during a winter of despair.
“However, having someone spelling the alphabet with their tongue on my clit won’t produce a yodel from my valley. Plus, I’ve found that when I just moan my pleasure it can cause people to go harder and faster just when I want them to keep doing exactly what they’ve been doing. Telling someone they’re doing it wrong can deflate their enthusiasm, which benefits nobody, so I devised strategic dirty talk phrases that are explicit directions to O-town. I highly recommend figuring out the actions you most often want someone to do during oral, whatever junk you have, and translating them into encouraging dirty talk. For example, a bit of alphabet tickling but not the whole damn thing? ‘Spell SLUT on my clit with your tongue.’”
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“Establish boundaries early on.”
“It’s important to establish boundaries early on in your play because slightly treading over them accidentally can leave your partner feeling off or hurt, and then neither of you will have the experience you wanted. When boundaries are firmly established and understood and you are both comfortable, you can get excited because you know the parameters to play within, and you set yourself up for a jaw dropping experience you’ll no doubt want to repeat.”
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“I love a good tease!”
“Try incorporating a remote-control vibrator in your play! Extra points if you use it in a public space. That is the only time I allow the man to take control. Imagine enjoying dinner in your favourite restaurant, the lady has inserted the vibrator and you suddenly turn it on. I love a good tease! I don't know if I would be able to wait to enjoy dessert in the restaurant or run to the hotel ASAP. There are a few options on the market, one of my favourites is Lelo Tiani."
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“Go into any experience with an open mind, and the only goal being to have fun.”
“Don't be afraid to laugh. Sex is supposed to be fun. It's supposed to feel GOOD – not just physically, but mentally as well. Our best laid (no pun intended!) plans don't always work out the way we expect, and our bodies do weird and wonderful things! Never let your expectations ruin the joy of the moment. Don't be embarrassed if you don't feel like you're putting on a 'Porn star'-esque performance – Porn stars are just people (I should know, I am one) and often some of the best and silliest moments end up on the cutting-room floor. Go into any experience with an open mind and the goal to have fun with, and make fun for, whoever you're with and you can't go wrong.”
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“Discuss your kinks, desires and fantasies before getting filthy.”
“NEVER assume, and ALWAYS communicate! It is always beneficial for everyone involved to be able to sit and discuss their kinks, desires and fantasies before getting filthy together. That way boundaries can be established and everyone will know what gets each other begging for more. HOT TIP: Pussy pumps are the most underrated sex toy of all time, and by far my absolute favourite!”
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